We all know a few guys who are overly excited every weekend — talking excessively about how “successful” their night is going to be. Before they know it, they realize (or fail to realize) that they have more in common with Beavis and Butthead than they have ever imagined; they obsess with scoring, and come back empty handed… every effin time.
The natural reaction many of those guys have after a failed night is to blame it all on the ladies; “they weren’t hot enough”, “they were stuck up”, “the ratio was off”, “they all had boyfriends”, “they were too boring”, “too drunk”, “too pushy” (I could go on, but you get the idea).
And although it is true that ladies are not always interested (that is a whole different post), chances are that the guy is the one screwing it up for himself.
Here are three things ladies want to say to every guy trying to “score”.
1) Stop Overrating Yourself
Confidence is good. Being unrealistic is bad.
It is understandable that every guy wants to meet someone attractive. A “10” as some would say. But unless you combine the looks of Ben Affleck, body of Dwayne Johnson, wealth of Bill Gates and social status of Barack Obama, you really don’t get to say “not interested” in approaching any lady who does not look like Scarlett Johansson. I mean, you could, but see aforementioned Beavis and Butthead reference for a sneak peak at the future. Plus, chances are that you will freeze in your own ground with a tied tongue once your Scarlett passes by, and then desperately try to justify yourself by telling your unimpressed buddies that “she probably has an attitude and a terrible personality anyway”.
Look at the mirror, think back at your past experiences, and re-evaluate yourself. Who will you most likely be interested in approaching, that would also happen to be interested back? I am not saying do not aim high. I am saying understand your playing field and do not limit yourself to the one person you may not get to talk to at all.
2) Use Your Brain
You know how some dogs try chasing their own tail over and over again although they never catch it? You’d think they would learn. They do have an excuse though… They are dogs.
What I don’t get is why a guy (with a functioning brain) would do the same thing over and over if it never works. One of these things includes the ever so useless pick up line followed by an awkward smile and a modified version of the walk of shame. I honestly cannot imagine a successful ending to “Nice legs, when do they open?”
Similar to when a guy driving past a beautiful lady on the street starts honking, throws a smart-ass comment, then drives away. I promise you, man. The lady will not take off her high-heels and start running after the car in hopes of getting to know you.
Just… Stop it. Ladies have an idiot radar. You have been detected.
3) Keep Your Insecurities at Home
So, you finally convinced your confident friend to hang out with you. He spots two ladies, walks straight to them, and you follow. The conversation is going great, until he drops a joke about the two of you being gay. You, being the true champion you are, start the climb back up to regain your chances, and go on and on about how you are so straight, you make Chuck Norris look like Penelope Cruz; counting how many women you have dated, and how you got laid last weekend (where by last weekend you really meant 2010).
Success! Right? … No.
The ladies already knew you were straight, and all your desperate efforts to remain relevant totally ruined your chances. Play along. Be fun. It won’t hurt. And please, don’t burst out a huge reaction to justify yourself whenever you receive a negative comment. Even worse, don’t start attacking back. You’re only confusing “badass” with “hopeless, weird, defensive, and insecure”.
Ladies; the more you share this, the more guys are educated on the topic. This is a general post that does not relate to any specific person. If you feel it does, refer to Point 3. Part two coming soon. For questions and comments, feel free to contact the author through Twitter @nizarsaqqar.